I took the day off yesterday. I wasn’t scheduled to work and instead of filling up my day with chores and even adventure, I took a break. Save for watering the lawn, which required me only to move the sprinkler around the yard, and two walks to the dog park, which I most enjoy, I did nothing. Instead, I read, napped, laid in the sun, sewed a little, practiced yoga (twice), and……no nothing else.
It was lovely. And needed.
Too often even our days off are filled with things we must accomplish. “I feel guilty for doing nothing,” a friend told me yesterday. I often have “rewarded” myself with small bits of free time after hours, days, even weeks of labor. The scales of this trade are often unbalanced. In fact I’ve never known them to be even.
It would be easier if there were some official banker who recorded our efforts in a ledger and then doled out a fair amount of free time in trade. There is no one like this. We must look after ourselves.
Why this is so difficult I am not sure. Self care is a road I discovered accidently once, a long time ago, and have found myself wandering on and off it for years. A few suggestions that have helped me stay on the path are the following:
..learn to say “no”
..enjoy the company of yourself
..sleep is important, allow for it
..eat well, your body and mind and spirit will reward you for this
..laugh often and at yourself
..be kind, to others yes, but especially to yourself
and perhaps most importantly, remember
..no one needs you more than you do..